DECISIONS

This past weekend we all know was Father's Day. I had planned on taking the Mr. out to eat and to a movie, no hot kitchen. Well, as we have experienced a lot of times thing don't quite work out as we plan. I got the hot kitchen.

The day before he invited his 87 yr. old father over for dinner while we were visiting and of course I didn't say a word. Yes, I did, I asked the old man what he wanted for dinner. It was a special day for him and he spent the whole day with us.

My stepdaughter called and wanted to be picked up, okay another guess but more help in the kitchen. My step has been having some life crisis' so her Dad decides she needs to talk to me.

Her problem, the same as most making decisions and a plan and sticking to them, not secon guessing herself. Who knows better than you what is good or bad for you. No one. What's so hard about sticking to a plan, nothing much if you write it down ..... a lot if you don't.When there is nothing to see, you don't have anything to gauge.

I asked her what it was she wanted out of life and what it is she wants to do. I asked if she had a plan. Of course not. First things first, let's start by thinking what it is we want, then how are we going to get there. She looked at me somewhat confused, I think she expected me to give her the answers. The problem with this is, I don't know what she wants, only she can answer those questions.

I suggested getting a notebook, regular cheap spiral, I keep boxes of them here at home, I have children. "Now, you need a pencil or pen," prefer pencils with erasers, good for mistakes, don't you sometimes wish you could erase some of the mistakes you've made in life. Of course you do but you can't. Don't look at them as mistakes, look at them as learning experiences, for that is what they are.

Now to wait and see what she comes up with. It's okay to bounce your thoughts off of other's, seek your own strengths for yourself and ask for input, make it clear it is only input, don't give up your control. You might be surprised to find that there are others that can see more in you sometimes than you can see in yourself.

Decide what it is you want and then set about making a plan to acheive it. Look at it as a road map for life. When you go somewhere for the first time, you get directions, you write them down and you're off. See the beginning and the end. The in between is your guide on what it is you need to do to get to where you want to BE.

You have to be able to make hard but good decisions to accomplish your goals. Knowing when to say 'Yes' or 'No' are going to be two most important words you will learn and use. Remember this is about you and your future. Don't allow poor judgement to choke your dreams. Make a decision and stick to it, don't question it. Try it, it might or might not work but you'll never know until you try. Do a little each day, don't over whelm yourself, that can be a quick ruin. Take it slow but steady and as I said before, for each baby step you make it puts you closer to where you want to be. With each step do something if no more than the happy dance, like dancing in the end - zone after a touchdown, it's fun or call someone who cares and share your steps with them.

Whatever it takes to keep you pressing forward. Remember we learn from our mistakes so don't be hard on yourself if it doesn't fall right into place easily, nothing in life is easy. It is easier to give up than to try again and spend the rest of your life wondering what if.

As always feel free to leave your thoughts or comments. Communicate.
I love hearing from you,
Sherryl

Create Time for Goals

CREATE TIME FOR THE GOAL


If you’ve reading my blog, you will recall this as being third insert for 7 effective ways to set your goal in motion.

Well, today I found out that I’m a good one for setting goals; I missed mine for the week. I like to write my goals onto a calendar I keep next to my computer. This wasn’t a very good week to reach goals; we had a family emergency evolve. Isn’t that always the way when you’re trying to achieve something.

Don’t sweat it if this happens. You missed your goal; it’s not a life threatening matter. You keep working at whatever it is that needs to be completed. Some of us get upset, frazzled out, I know I do sometimes, but I have to come back to the reality that things happen and it’s out of our control. We can’t control everything, even though we think we can.

Look at this way, I missed it but I can get it done. Don’t let missing goals for that week throw you out of sync, relax and get back to work; it is not the end of the world.
I was working on a couple of items, I ran out of yarn. I never knew there were so many shades of black from a manufacturer. I had extra black, just not the shade I needed. This added to my not reaching this week’s goal. Now that I have what I need, there was other business to attract my attention. Things happen that you can’t say no to. I moved reach date to three days away from the original. That’s all we have to do, just reset the date and work towards the next deadline. You see, the important thing here is to keep working towards those new dates.
Remember to always set short term goals. Something that can be achieve quickly. As you begin to reach your goals, you will feel better and begin to set more goals that are attainable. Write them down, place them where they are always visible. Once you achieve your goal, just one goal, each goal, treat yourself. Do something special for yourself, go to the movies, take a day off and just relax, get a facial, just do something that makes you feel good about reaching your goal. It’s a reward. This gives you the enthusiasm to work on to the next.

I know that in order to achieve you must have time. The best way to find time for your goals is to take note of where your time is going. Ask yourself what is it that I’m doing in a day that takes away from my achieving my goal. Then eliminate that action.

Set a date and time for everything you need to do. In running a business, set aside a time and date that all you do that day is work on your promotions. Set a date and time to blog or check forums. Set aside time that you spend on the phone with family or friends, so as not to interfere with what you’re doing. Get the picture.

There is always time to work on what we love and consider important. Create time and see your dreams begin to unfold.

Please feel free to leave comments, I love hearing from you. Your comments will help to make my blogs better.

Next week I will go into Decide once and for all!

Sherryl
http://www.newdaycrochet.etsy.com